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Originally Posted by CantExplain
I guess the first question is, do you actually want sex, or do you just think you ought to want it?
There are a number of asexual people who post here occasionally. (I'm afraid I wasn't very supportive when I met them last, but I've done some growing since then...) They would tell you that society puts great pressure on people to be sexual. But is possible to have a life partnership with someone without any sex at all. Would that meet your needs?
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I've thought about the possibility of being asexual, and honestly, part of me would be ok with the idea of not wanting/having sex, but a bigger part of me wants a sexual relationship. I don't think it's so much asexuality as it is a fear of losing control over my body, becoming vulnerable, the idea of not being good enough in some way (appearance, performance, etc). I believe it is more anxiety based than orientation based, but I could be wrong. The problem isn't
wanting sex, it's
having sex. I can get in the mood (to keep it PG-13), but I freeze when it's time to act on it.