(((seame))) I agree, although you have been divorced you guys shared a connection, now you are really ending it. Perhaps somewhere you held out hope the two of you would get back togehter? I don't know. I went through something similar with my ex. Long story, and a big OUCH! I am still trying to put it all together, it's hard, therapy does help a whole lot, and having a place like here to chat it out does a great deal.
Any time you need a shoulder, just call out!!! hugs, Lisa