No no one wants an abusive partner.
I have 2 boys. I raised them to talk about there feelings, hug, cry, what ever. We are all human. Not just girls cry and have feelings. The world would be a better and safer place if men could/would speak there feelings.
My 15 yr old loves his stuffed animals. His dad fusses at him and makes him feel bad about it. But I tell him, go for it. If that helps you and makes you feel safe or happy then who cares what your dad thinks.