If you slept with the bf for the sole purpose of not hurting him, then it all seems for the better. The church organizing activities that encourage mingling among singles or better to say enable mingling is benign. The attitude towards children still seems extremist. Even the most child loving Orthodox Jews, you know, in black clother and with countless kiddies, still would give you an exception, immediately, due to the medications you are on. Mother or potential mothers health is always a higher priority.