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Default Jan 19, 2013 at 03:40 PM
 
Also, having two divorces on your relationship resume is not a cause for concern, in and of itslef. It does not rise to the level of pattern. If you had ten divorces, then one could conclude thaat marriages are somehow just not your thing but two is common. If a woman occasionally gets yeast infections, her doctor does not sound an alarm because yeast infections are common. A series of frequent yeast infections not preceded by antibiotics creates a pattern and warrants HIV screening. The usual statistic given for the rate of divorce is fifty percent. So being once divorced is quite likely and twice divorced, less but still likely. Plus, nowadays people vary in their criteria of what calls for a marriage ceremony. The divorce rate we know of is compiled by using the figures supplied by bureaus of vital statistics. What about the rate of breakups in cohabitation relationships? May be you married easily and other people would have cohabitated in your circumatances?

To sum up, while divorce unlike death and taxes is not a certainty it is very commonplace and your having been twice divorced does not mean anything bad about your self worth.
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