I am not real familar w/ judo- christian. I am of baptist faith. It is strongly encouraged that you do not have premarital sex. But the word we live doesn't make that easy. It is not a desired trait to partake in and pregnancy can be really hard having been taught better in the church. But the lord does forgive. And as christians we should love the sinner and not the sin. Unbelivably we are quite accepting of these kids of accidents.

I was raised in church and still gave into temptation and had premarital sex. The bible teaches all kinds of things that are difficult to do. for example Divorce is not looked down on as a good thing either.

As for the ability to have children, Sara from the bible was close to 90 I believe. She had a baby. Now a days we can't have babies at 90 but we can at 45. So you may well have a good opportunity later on in life to have children. Not all psy meds are forever. If having children once you are married is still a priority going off them for 9 mo sounds tough. But there is a widly misunderstood way that a womans body works. Often while she is pregnent her body no longer requires the meds until after the baby is born and as long as the baby is solely nursing. Immidiately after these things have stopped the need for the meds return and life goes on as it did before w/ the medication.

My sister in law was in a car accident and she suffered brain damage. She took prozac and I'm not real sure what else. She quit taking them as soon as she found out, the baby was fine. She nursed her little one for 4 months and went back on her meds. W/ out them while not pregnant she is very controlling, loud, abusive, angry and compulsive. With them you would never know she had to take them. Because of this accident she will never be able to go off of them except in the case of pregnancy. She has gone on to have another child.

No children is not the most horrible aspect of religion. A woman w/ no children of her own can teach sunday school, she can mentor other kids, she can be youth leader. Sure we are supposed to procreate, and some religions go a little far in procreation. Saying to only have sex w/ having children in mind. There are so many different beliefs.

It is also not uncommon for men to behave erratically when sex is w/held. Some men have a huge sex drive and get testy w/ out sex. But that is no excuse for abuse. If there is abuse involved then it is time to walk away. Giving into sex even though religion says not to, meaning if you have sex w/ this guy then you will be showing him that the church and religion do not mean that much to you. So you will have to choose. God does forgive, God does know we are human w/ human desires. We do slip, we do fail, and God allows mistakes, but he doesn't like habitual sin. And that is wrong to knowing do wrong and continue to do wrong. It is a hard call to make. Sin or sin not.