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Default Jan 22, 2013 at 09:04 PM
 
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Originally Posted by likewater View Post
Actually, as a child of God, i realized how much God loves me. He doesn't want me hurting or used or disrespected that's one reason the no sex outside of marriage exists.
You need to develop skills in partner selection. Some people are born with them and for others they are learnable skills. As a fact, most women who have sex outside of marriage do not hurt, feel used, or feel disrespected, and many of them feel quite wonderful, empowered, and happy, so the issue is not the status of the relationship but the selection of relationship partners. To believe that marriage will be the answer to the problem without working on skills development is magical thinking.

Unless...Imagine that the bf does marry you. Changes his mind and marries you. In church. Would you all of sudden, by miracle, want to have sex with him for your sake, not just his sake? If yes, then for you personally the issue IS the status of the relationship. If not, the issue remains with the partner selection.
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