drclay,

thanks a lots for ur reply and yw! you stated that :

"Those kinds of personality traits can be learned when we are young and passed on to our children, so it looks like inherited."

how to stop the "inherit" to my next generation? of coz what is bad i wanna to kick it out and what is good i keep. Or should I say there's no perfect life here on earth I just need to deal with it , overcome, surrender etc etc till the day I die.

about english I would say "borderline" at times that certain words or sentence i still dont understand or find it difficult to put into practice or adjustment and also to be honest I either didnt read the whole thing and started into the chat coz I wanted it "fast". but when the time someone told me that I shouldnt said this or that or do this or that I realized that i've make a mistakes and need to repent. Plz dont kick me out from pc. thanks

carol