thanks... i see now that 'empathy' taken to the extreme, is really just another form of not paying attention to my own needs...of not feeling worthy...another form of feeling like i do not matter....
Bingo, Chloe! How many counselors have asked me repeatedly, but what about YOU? I would be describing other people, concentrating on them. At its worst, I wasn't getting dressed or doing laundry! I could easily get lost in concentrating on others. I still struggle to direct thoughts to what supports me! Recently, lying in bed trying to go back to sleep, I was trying to concentrate on the Lord's Prayer or Hail Marys, but my brain was writing a letter to someone explaining how unfair it all is! I've written that letter now, but -- sheesh! -- what a price I paid!