Punto, I so appreciate the specific examples you share from your life!

Clara, those links were very useful for me, and I imagine will help others here, too.

Thank you, both so much.
Just discussing this issue on here helped me deal with some more boundary setting I needed to do in my life today... breathing into the ok-ness that I need to take care of me, too...if I am to be able to look into the mirror and see a whole person looking back.