i'll post just one more and then i'll bow out...

i guess i just wanted to say that maybe... how guys respond 'in general' really isn't as important as how your guy responds. because maybe you aren't really so interested in how guys think 'in general' so much as you are interested in what your guy thinks of you?

i've heard it said that it is much harder to respect someone who doesn't have self-respect. i try and respect everyone, but i do get that there is some truth to this. i think that what it is about is assessing what seems right to you. sometimes that involves learning the hard way (waiting longer than was right for you, not waiting until it was right for you). i think there might well be some truth to the notion that it is better to wait too long than not wait long enough (with respect to harm to self).

but maybe you really are interested in general opinion...

it will be interesting to hear what the guys have to say