Hi andell,
i wish i knew of some resources for you. I'm the younger (lucky her! just kidding) in an age gap gay relationship. Where you live, is there a large gay community? If so, there might be a GLBT resource center...anyway I did a little research into what resources are available in your state. You may have found these but try these below. Not sure where you are exactly (city) but there are resources by city lisetd once you navigate around the pages a bit.

http://dv-8.com/resources/us/local/mn.html

http://www.outfront.org/

http://www.rainbowfamilies.org/

We are wanting to start a family, so no kids yet and I don't have advice for you with that, but do understand the equality issues we face as lesbians, I'm scared to add a child to the mix, but we're gonna maybe give it a go. PM me if you need to.