Hi Fancyladypants,
Thank you for this post. I have been 3 children myself + a miscarriage between my first and second children. A lot of what you have said here makes sense to me. I have been trying for a long time to find out why I have distanced my self from my husband both emotionally and physically (over many years) as well as cutting myself off from a proper relationship with my children. Reading what you wrote made me look at my self and my feelings in a completely new way. I think maybe I have been suffering from PPD (very mildly) since I had my miscarriage (over 9 years).
A lot of what is being written here makes sense and explains a good deal to me.
I have done a little reading around this and all documentation claim that it should go over within up to year, but I have been feeling like this for well on 9 as i wrote earlier.