there is nothing wrong with being a lesbian, just to let you know i am not, but i do have a few gay male friends and a couple of gay girlfriends. i don't know if the person you are talking about knows how you feel, but maybe you could explain to her how much you love her, see if she feels the same way, if not then you will know instead of wondering about it yourself. sometimes although same sex friends are not gay just to let you know you may get rejected, but you won't know until try.