Thank you all for your responses. I know I need more self-care in my life but cannot figure out how to fit it in amongst all the responsibilities of working FT, caring for kids (ages 4, 7 & 10), being a wife, mother, sister, daughter, household management, etc etc etc.

My specific triggers come when my dd1 tells me I don't give her enough positive attention when I feel such despair because I try so hard. I think she just tells me that to get back at me when she has hurt feelings or is feeling negative.

Ds wants to chose some smilies: