Most of the time I feel like I'm just messing up my kids especially since I don't have any examples of how to raise healthy/happy kids because I was raised in an abusive household (verbally/emotionally abusive mother & sexually abusive/alcoholic father). My husband has the same concerns too because he was raised by a verbally abusive mother & relatively passive, non-assertive father, who is still not allowed by his mother to make any decisions. I feel for the most part we're on the same page & our kids seem to do normal preteen/teen good & bad stuff but when we do make a decision about or punishment for them, we still anxiously question if we made the right decision. In the end, I feel they'll probably just end up in therapy as adults like me because of any poor decisions I've made for them. Does anyone else feel this way too?