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Default May 11, 2015 at 10:22 AM
 
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we decided with our five year old to let him have free reign over whatever he chooses to say
gets a little intense sometimes haha luckily i'm able to take it easily most of the time but his mom has a very hard time sometimes especially when he's telling her he hates her and she's a terrible mom
i just remember all the times i've said mean things to people and how you might feel like you mean it in the moment but it's all coming from love and fear
more importantly i think of all the times i was never allowed to criticize my life/the way i was being parented while growing up and how much that hurt
basically i just try to remember kids can have the same freedom to voice any of the feelings they're feeling (even if it's really hard for us to hear) i just try to remind myself of that
basically don't get mad and just remind them you love them
"i hate you"
"ok you're allowed to feel that way"
"no i'm gonna kill you!"
"oh i would miss you lots if you did"
"i don't care!"
"that's ok. love you!"
that's sort of how we do. but then again he's half the age of your daughter... however i think the premise is similar.
i hope the new counselling center works!
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