Hi nurse. Welcome to Psych Central. Sorry to hear you are suffering from the after affects of your children's mixed up life. Your story is really heartbreaking. If your son is not anymore stable than your DIL then I would say that it was best for the child to stay with you. Another option would be weekend custody for your son so he can work a job and you can give stability to the child. If you want to proceed with this, you will probably need a lawyer to help you through the maze of regulations.

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