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Default Jun 11, 2015 at 03:16 PM
 
Nurse343, I'm glad you are putting your grandson's needs first. I believe your concern that he might feel abandoned again if you send him to live with his father are legitimate. He's lived with you his entire life. In his mind you and your husband are his parents. How much contact has your grandson had with your son? If not much, he would be like a stranger to your grandson. How does your grandson respond to your son? Have they bonded at all? Maybe you could try some short (a few hours, not a whole weekend) trial visits if they have not spent much time together.

I'm going to be very blunt. Just because someone gives sperm or and egg to create a child does not make them a parent. The people who are there every day, loving and nurturing the child are the true parents in my opinion.

One last thought, if DHS gave you permanent custody you might have to go through them to give custody to your son.
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