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Originally Posted by Webgoji
For me it's always been about women. I personally could really care less about what other men thought, I don't worry about all that alpha male peeing higher on the tree nonsense. But my experience has been that women don't want anything to do with a man that was vulnerable. What's the first thing they always say they find attractive? Confidence. Vulnerability doesn't ever even make the top 100.
So for me it's always been and will always be because of the opposite sex.
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Confidence is often measured against the group though, women measure us against the other men around us rather than some unspoken scale. Similar to an attractive woman you may see walking down the street seems stunning until you see her next to a group of models where the competition may jade your original view of her. We may not be directly competing against men in our minds but I think the only way to establish that ideal of confidence is to judge it against the men around you. It takes a lot less confidence to stand out in a group of graphic designers than it does marines.