Great point about forgiving yourself. That is something I have not been doing at all. I always felt that I deserved anything my last partner would throw at me because I had done some very terrible things.

Im definitely ashamed of some of the things I have done but after a very long (and surprisingly great) conversation with my psychologist today, I finally realize that I did make those mistakes and now I need to focus on letting them go. The memories of things past are there to remind me of the person I don't want to be. Beyond that, they are also there to remind us of what we don't deserve as well. My situation is a little different, but still the same principle applies. Never be a victim of your memories, good or bad. They are there to help us become a better person tomorrow.