What's obviously apparent of anyone who chooses to come onto a forum to enlighten us on why they could be psychopaths, sociopaths or afflicted with ASPD is that they most likely (most likely meaning 99.98%) do not have it. I'm not disregarding what you've said, but someone who's truly affected by this condition wouldn't give half a damn to jump on a forum online to describe why they may possibly be a certain way.
From what I've read, you don't have ASPD - you've simply grown cold from the dire experience you are living in. Also, people can match with a few symptoms of any Cluster B disorder - this does not necessarily mean they are afflicted with it.