And I love to have a submissive woman who enjoys creative ways to administer pain. I am, however, very much a ‘white bread and mayonnaise’ dom. The man in black who subdues you carefully, in ropes or other devices, and whom you serve in any manner.

I don’t leave scars and I don’t draw blood - and I want you to cum, if you ask for permission.

My idea of bdsm is submission first and pain to follow.

I also have a toe fetish - maybe an entire foot fetish? I don’t know. I had to dash to the men’s room to masturbate after I saw Uma Thurman’s toes in Kill Bill. I love long, distinctly jointed, prehensile toes, and Morton’s Toe (the second toe being the longest) is a must. I find this fetish queer because, when I had feet, I had long, distinctly jointed, prehensile toes and my second toe was the longest. Something narcissistic there, what? This... fetish... developed in high school. Every woman with whom I have had strong relationships have had these types of toes.

I don’t think that my fetishes present a danger to anyone. As others have said, a fetish might remain an unfulfilled longing if it (or they) would be considered repugnant by polite society. Goat-f**king, for example, might be fine for the isolated, lonely shepherd but it’s not something to be done in the public square. Rough rape fantasies (I hesitate to call them fetishes) ], are more the purview of women, I think) can be acted out safely but if the role-playing is not consensual, then it is a no-go.

I really think that what you might call ‘fetishes’ are actually ‘fantasies’ although I would agree that my propensity to dominate and bring pain to a woman and my ‘toe-fetish’ are, in fact, true fetishes.

There are both fetishes and fantasies that, if practiced, are illegal. You need only be a Big Boy to understand that genuine and active pedophilia is wrong. I read of these ‘pedophila rings,’ in which men create and circulate pedophiliac pornography and I am sickened.

You know... I’m not certain that I have sufficient insight into deviance to answer the question. Yes, I would likely enjoy the painful submission of this message. Nothing wrong with that!