Ciderguy,
I’m talking about FetLife.com. It’s active bdsm community has over 5 million members. I’m not sure if you need an invite anymore to become a member, but the wealth of information there....well it has a great deal.
It was under some heavy scrutiny in January bec of political issues & there’s been some “changes”, but it survived. It is NOT a dating site. I’ve heard some call it the bdsm Facebook & ive done a great deal of reading & talking to other like minded members there.
It’s also full of trolls, creeps, scammers & various others like any other site. Depends on what you’re looking for.
Enjoy!
And thank you for the compliment too!