I disagree with this. I think that from reading Ikkusiosi's post, it is not clear to her (or me) whether she experienced trauma. She may have, but may not have.

Ikkusiosi, a lot of children experiment and have their own way of expressing their sexuality. I don't think there's anything wrong with you. To have your mother though, think that your father sexually abused you, and for you to not remember it that way (but at the same time, wondering why she thought that?), and to be questioning your own sexual behaviors as a child... I can see how all of that would make you confused and question what the heck is / was going on.