I am able to be one on one with a woman as long as my husband can watch. Lol. An option you could explore if you don't want him to have contact with her.

I can imagine what you are feeling about orgasms. Don't blame yourself. I've had men who couldn't get me off even though they had no problems with other ladies.

Hopefully you will find a way to relax a little and that helps. Exploring your sexual side can be such an amazing experience. I hope you are able to find your calm place.