I can only answer for myself. No trauma at all - not wiring, either. I am a product of my experiences and imagination and I can blend and parse both to see my kinks in infancy.

I did a little reading on childhood sexuality today and, well, there is nothing there, really, because the subject is so very taboo. The two or three 20th-century studies are weak and prejudicial. They seem to begin with the presumption that active sexuality during the Freudian ‘latency’ period must have a previous trauma attached, although that isn’t the case in more primitive societies.

If I agree - and I do - that there exists no normalcy, then I must say the same for ‘kinks.’ Is there a normal kinkiness? A kinky norm?

What we might find kinky in others means, too, that others might find us kinky. That we share kinks with, usually, many others - and have for hundreds of years - supports the idea that ‘kinks’ did not only rise with the current pervasiveness of pornography but is a result of some experiential commonality that ties pleasure to pain and pain to pleasure, as just one example.

Time for bed!