Same here. I'm 20 and every single friend (though that's only like 3 people) and almost every single coworker has had sex. My best friend has told me how I shouldn't be worried or ashamed for being a virgin, buuuuut she's had sex plenty of times and sometimes talks about wanting to help me get a girlfriend. Seems kinda hypocritical "it's fine to be a virgin! But you need to have sex with a girl already." (She's never said it in those words, but that's exactly what she means). I also have an issue with basically feeling transgendered and not wanting to have sex with my current set of genitalia (no desire to be penetrated, but me having a penis would be awesome) so even if I did get the chance, I wouldn't REALLY get the chance you know what I mean?

Basically I'm just in the same boat as you.