Thank you for responding, and for your suggestions. I'm on meds but that isn't it, as I can get myself off. I have to resort to this after sex, I go into another room. I don't want to, but the frustation is too diffucult. I know that isn't going to fix what I want, because I know it makes him feel bad that he isn't able to satisfy me. No, bdsm isn't my thing but thanks for helping with an idea... I'll just keep trying to think of other ways. I can't help but think he just can't get the rythm and pressure right when he's touching me, but I've already gently guided him how to do it. Must be a mental blockage in my head.