I'm struggling with my boyfriend on the domination thing. He wants me to dominate, but always says what I should be doing. Not a very good sub, if you ask me.
Moreso the problem is that I don't like domination. I'm only a little bit kinky when it comes to sex. I would like to tie him with handcuffs to the bedposts, but that's as kinky as I can get.
Now, the things I'm not willing to do are to leave him (that would kill him), or break the monogamy in our relationship. So, no "open" relationship suggestions please. I don't even know why that would even be a suggestion to begin with. It's such a stupid idea for me. I'm a very possessive and jealous person. It wouldn't be a good idea at all. Besides, the idea of some other woman getting her paws on him just upsets me to no end.
What I want is a way to mesh our sexual desires so that both of us have fun and enjoy each other and the deep emotional experience of making love.
Any helpful suggestions on how to go about this?