I loved the affection and in my original post i said he tries hard to please me. That's far from true actually. I go too far to please him. Just last night I'm making supper and as usual he has to say I'm not doing things right and takes over. I've explained to him that I like to cook for him but if it isn't done his way he doesn't appreciate my efforts. He isn't even friendly and became controlling this past year. If I can't please him either, then what the he'll am I staying with him for? Hugs are just hugs. Sex is just sex. We haven't really bonded much. The only thing we have in common is our love of music and he helped me learn the guitar.