Have you talked with your sponsor? When it came time to do Step 9, my sponsor helped me decide which people from Step 4 were most important to make amends to. On my Step 4 list I had people listed whom I hadn't seen or talked to in 20 years...& the step says "became WILLING to make amends..." My sponsor said many of those folks I listed wouldn't remember me, OR my transgressions - & might just dredge up bad memories for them. Thank goodness for sponsors.