Hi, thanks for your reply. I wrote to my mom and said she was sorry to hear the news and that if they wanted to connect by Skype let me know. We'll see if she's mellowed or if I get the usual Skype scowls like I have the last times we've talked, which led me to not suggest it any more Skyping.

So, kind of going through the motions, but still not feeling sad.

I have been to therapy about her in the past. It did help to some extent, at least to help me accept that she's not likely to change, and with controlling my reactions, etc.

My dad just told me she is scheduled for surgery next week and then radiation.