Since then, I got have received only generic email from my dad, sent to various family members, saying the surgery went fine and that she would have a consult with her surgeon on the 19th. There's been no communication about how it went. She never answered my email, and my dad never answered my email to him either.

Now that I think of it, I guess I didn't realize it so much, she had pretty much delegated "dealing" with me to my dad for at least the last year and a half. Other other emails I sent her in the past were never answered either, same with Facebook messages. Any gifts were only acknowledged by my father, not her.

In a way, realizing that makes me feel better about my reaction. It's not like she wants any realationship with me anyways.

I wonder if that initial reaction where I felt like I snapped when I got the email saying she's not well was more because I could sort of just pretend like she doesn't exist a lot of the time. But this whole situation put me back on her radar.