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Originally Posted by Rose76
I'm suspicious of that person who approached you after yoga class. It's actually kind of rude to ask someone what they do with their friends. That's an intrusive question. It's not a normal way of making conversation. You were being put on the spot . . . and maybe that was the intention.
Don't respond to a query like that by baring your soul. This person made you feel uncomfortable. When a question feels uncomfortable to answer, that's a sign that maybe you should give a b.s. answer. Who is this person to be delving in to your private life? Seeing you at a yoga class does not entitle someone to start interrogating and analyzing you. You sound overly trusting. That can make you vulnerable to being easily hurt. That, in turn, can make you shy away from people.
An appropriate answer would have been something like: "Well, most of my friends are contacts I made while I was in prison. We're generally busy cooking up a heist or a scam." Even if you don't actually say stuff like that, thinking it will lose you up.
Your in the habit of worrying whether or not you're good enough for others. Plenty of people you pass by every day aren't good enough for you.
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It's the same person that seemed upset by the prospect that I could be moving away a while back, saying "that makes me kind of sad, I'm only just getting to know you." Perhaps she wants to be friends outside of the gym? There's a positive spin? He husband is a big weather nerd and I think that's really cool.
I would be rather disgusted with myself if I did give a BS answer. My soul is always bared because my mind and heart are always open. It's part of how I get to have some of my awesome adventures. I'm yet always open to being hurt, and ergo, frequently I am hurt. But, I don't hide.
I have old acquaintances that I could be doing those prison-worthy things with and I choose to not be that person. I was lucky enough to get away with far too much. I'll not make light of it because someone might be able to link me to some things if they thought about it.
"Aren't good enough for me?" What kind of talk is that? That's exactly the sort of talk that makes one feel inferior to another. You're stating that one is better than the other. Don't do that, please, because I don't like it.
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I'm really having to give my own support in this one and I appreciate everyones' getting me to talking myself around to the positives. I don't think I'm able yet to be the positive immediately. The next quote makes more sense every moment lately.
"You must become the change you wish to see" -- Gandhi