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Falo
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Confused Mar 25, 2018 at 09:11 AM
 
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Originally Posted by itsgettinglate View Post
I've been on here 2.5 years and I've made 25 posts, so I don't comment much, though I do check into the site 3-4 times per month. I stop by this forum (men-focused-support) nearly every time I'm here, and there's seldom much happening.

I tend to agree that venues like this draw more women than men, and for the men who do show up, it's not typically our forte to share our feelings. That seems to be a bit of a shame. Women can be great support, but I sense that they sometimes tire of playing that role, and that can show up on the margins or in the tone of their responses to typically men's issues. So.......

I think I'll start a topic.
I am here because my life has taken a very unexpected bad turn. I had been emotionally abused by the woman I love for 2 straight years, and my solution was to turn to a female friend for emotional support. I guess I kept the friendship hidden from my abuser, and of course she found out. That caused more abuse, and then I think I deserved it. I'm trying to walk that fine line between being a big, strong, wood-chopping, carpenter, golfer man - being an abused partner - and being a together person. Maybe the problem is that I can't walk a line between 3 things? See there? I can't be serious either. I use humor in all situations - funerals included.

I would hate to give up the humor because it's my most distinguishing characteristic. Is this part of the problem? That I think this?

Choppy waters fellas....
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