I can relate to your husband because I'm afraid I'm being passive aggressive to my partner who I feel a little neglected by. I'm not a perfect person.
And like your husband I don't know how to communicate this to him. I would happily tell him how I felt IF he asked me.. if he showed interest in how I felt. I'm an observant person so I get frustrated when people close to me don't pick up on how I'm feeling by my actions..
I wish I could be one of those people who comes right out and say it but I'm not... I need to know that the other person WANTS to know. I have told my boyfriend things that have been bothering me for a while but, on one occasion, his response was silence. A number of times my feelings went unvalidated.

Anyways, I just wanted to give you another side to the story 😁