I wouldn't call him a complete jerk, although his behavior is insensitive at times and I can see where people come to that conclusion. He works as a bus driver. I've seen him interact with passengers. A lot of *them* think he's a jerk. It's not his intention. He's brusque and businesslike and can come off as abrupt. The testing did show he's very low on verbal communication skills. Words fail him often. He doesn't know the right way to communicate what he's thinking. But I think verbal communication includes listening and comprehending as well as speaking. Right?

He does agree to go to counseling *with me,* but not alone. It surprised him that I wanted to, because he was (and probably still is) under the impression that couples counseling is for people whose marriage is in trouble, and they're making a last-ditch desperate attempt to save it. The idea of going to counseling to solve little problems before they turn into big problems is foreign to him.