I agree. I am inclined to say he needs to be a priority.

I will side myself with those that think children shouldn't be exposed to devices like phones, tv, and tablets. Just the other night I spent 3 hours in someone else's home and her child not yet two spent the entire time playing with just these such objects. Shocking.

But it sounds to me as though you perhaps agree but feel trapped.

Your partner is going to have to step up to the plate. There are things you can do to increase quality time with your child. They might only be four but they can 'help' you make dinner. Sit them up near the counter and engage them about what you are doing. Give them a spoon or pan to play with. Yes, it might be noisy but you are engaging the child. Similarly, make dinner time itself an important part of your day. My other suggestion is to schedule yourself regular breaks and stick to them.

Good luck, keep us informed.