I remember that person who chose to attack me for opening up to them
They talked about the “great things” they did while attacking, and accusing me of negative traits which I never even said
That left me with a great scorn towards self-improvement, as it seems to me it’s something people shove in other’s faces to say “look how much I’m improving compared to you!”

It seems to me like a concept transmitted with a more obligatory intent behind it, instead of some bonus to life

Help me figure this concept out in a more healthy way