Hello EnigmaticBeing!

I think those expectations are almost alway stressful, regardless of you gender identity

If you are looking for other people to relate: Have you connected with agender/neutrum or gender-nonconforming people? Maybe it would give you some strength if you could talk to others that feel similar to you?

Besides that: I think even if you identified with being a women, those gender expectations suck.
You should be allowed to be who you are, not what other people think you should be because of your gender.
And it's kind of not okay for her to give you make up as "gifts" and try to pressure you to be somebody else?
I guess you tried to talk to her about it? Or do you need more analysis why this is not okay, so that you can talk to her?