Eabtrees, I am so sad for you. I can tell how much you love your mother and how hard it is to see her self-destruct. I don't have any advice for you, just wanted you to know I read your pain and felt it through your words. My birth mother was an alcoholic. My adoptive father was also an alcoholic, so I do understand the pain somewhat. I was not close to them, however, so your pain is different from mine. I wish your mother could see the loving daughter she has before her and figure out how to start living again.