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Originally Posted by samj40
I came out as queer without any issue. In fact, I'm literally loud and proud about my sexuality. It hasn't always been the easiest, but I'm really unapologetic about it.
But... I can't do the same with my gender. Online I'm who I should be but offline, I just... Can't bring myself to live the real me. It causes me so much anxiety and it's really eating away at everything in my life. My anxiety and dysphoria are slowly taking over everything. I need to be the real me but I just can't be that person.
I do have a gender specialist but they're not doing anything for me at all. No hormones, nothing. I had to wait so long to see them and for... What? Ugh. Part of me feels as though low dose HRT would probably help this anxiety a lot, because I'll start to physically change into who I should be. You know?
Granted, my gender is a... Special case. I'm AFAB and consider myself transmasculine/androgyne but my gender expression is feminine. I don't really feel 'trans enough' and I wonder if that's why I'm not getting help...
I dunno, I'm so confused and exhausted. I just want to be happy and confident in my own skin and identity. I guess I'm just so nervous because I know I need to move forward and I'm not getting any younger. Everything is a damn mess right now. Anyone else ever experience similar? I could really use some advice or just some kind words, this is really rough.
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Hi there! I'm sorry to hear that you are going through this.
I can relate to some of this. I'm AFAB but I identify as Androgyne. Sometimes I present more feminine, but usually I try my best to present more gender neutral. However, when I look in the mirror, I just see someone who's androgynous. Even when I put on a bit of makeup, I still don't see a woman in the mirror. My dysphoria is more social. Some people see me as androgynous while others see me as more feminine. When it comes to certain aspects of our identity, people often wants us to prove that we are what we identity as, and that is a toxic mindset. So I hear you when you say that you do not feel "trans enough". I worry about that, too, sometimes, especially when I hear binary trans people put down nonbinary trans people. When we start to transition, we reach a point when we feel stagnant. I'm at that point and it is very frustrating. It sounds like you might be at that point as well. I just want you to know that you are not alone. I wish you the best of luck!
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Originally Posted by Keyplayer
A question of pure insatiable curiosity :
Please forgive me , I am an old trans person , so with that in mind , please explain to me we so many use the term "queer" or "gender-queer" ?
I have always considered the word to be most offensive , and now a days it seem so widely used , and I know not why , so I ask you to educate this old trans.
Thanks 
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Hey there! "Queer" is now more used as an umbrella term for anything that is seen as outside of the "norm"/ what society deems as "normal". Genderqueer is...well...queering gender, basically! I read somewhere that genderqueer focuses more on presentation and is more political? But I don't know much else besides that. Genderqueer is a term that often confuses me, as well, as I don't know the exact definition. ^__^;;