I had this problem with SSRI's, Risperdone. Are you on an SSRI? Because all of those kill your sex drive. When I switched to Geodon from Risperdal my sex drive came rushing back. I feel you man. I know your frustration. It was my greatest coping mechanism that helped me sleep, helped relieve depression. What other meds are you on? Maybe try a med like Latuda instead or Geodon... Abilify is suppose to be one of the better ones though, so that surprises me. :/