I’m not sure what it is. But I have experienced a sense of wanting to be part of a group and feeling ignored. Inevitably I blamed myself and felt inadequate. I’ve later learned there were other reasons. Sometimes what I thought was a fairly direct effort on my part to join in really wasn’t. I am naturally quiet and reserved and people don’t always read me well. Other times I’ve realized the people I was trying to fit in with really weren’t a good fit for me and I was better off not fitting in.

I wonder is it that you don’t really have an identity with BPD or that you don’t realize you do?