Hi.
I thought id ask this here as i already know a lot about npd... and its kind of 'in' at the moment, so a lot of people are new to the whole thing.
I really want to know if my dad has aspd or severe narcissism..

Ok. So he is certainly narcissistic. Ive thought of him as a malignant narcissist for some time.
He has all the hallmarks - needing admiration, grandisoity.. manipulative. no empathy..
But then theres the more harmful side:
Vindictive. Cold and callous. Sadistic. Calculated deasembling of a persons psyche.. going far beyond 'character defaming' talked about in the realm of narcissism - he does that too... but while that comes across as a joyful hobby he seems to really relish the one to one annihilation of anothers well-being.
Hed take me apart with a glint of joy and malice in his eyes as he'd stare me face to face... i felt he liked the thrill of getting away with it.. and toying with me with impunity. Felt like being a mouse in the clutches of a cat.

Hes used my mental health issues as fun... fuel to keep him going/entertained. For instance negativley commenting on my appearance knowing i have severe body dsymorphic disorder (discreetly so as to keep plausable deniability and me spinning trying to figure out whats what)

I dont think ive ever seen him experience genuine emotion. Just anger. And satisfaction/elation at putting someone else down on the internet... or IRL, winning an argument e.t.c
He did once or twice cry but im not sure if it that was an act. It seemed very real at the time.. and it was to do with me trying to shut him out of my life.... ::: that makes me doubt aspd as he wouldnt give a damn if i shut him out surely?

I know no one here can diagnosis anyone else. But i have FA chance of getting him to see a psychiatrist.
Its either malignant narcissism or aspd. I dont know why im so interested in finding out. Guess i want tge pieces of the puzzle.

Anyhow. Thanks for any insight.
C5