Congratulations on your marriage! 27 years is truly a success. And I apologize sincerely if I came off as condescending. I didn't intend to be. I'm an intense person and it seems that intensity comes out strangely sometimes. I'm genuinely sorry about your mom. I grew up with a very challenging mother who was, at times, abusive to me. Even worse was how horribly she treated herself. Sad, sad.