Hello JNNFE: I see this is your first post here on PC. So... welcome to PsychCentral! I hope you find PC to be of benefit.

One other forum, here on PC, that may be of interest would be the healthy parenting forum. Here's a link:

https://forums.psychcentral.com/healthy-parenting/

I'm afraid the situation you describe is not one I can be of any particular help with myself. My personal feeling is that, at some point, you simply have to let the chips fall where they may, so to speak. But I can imagine how difficult that could be when the person you're concerned about is your child. Hopefully there will yet be other members, here on PC, who have had some similar experiences they can share.

In the meantime, here are links to 7 articles, from PsychCentral's archives, that may be of interest:

10 Things You Need to Know About Codependency | Happily Imperfect

Rescuing, Resenting, and Regretting: A Codependent Pattern | Happily Imperfect

Codependency and the Art of Detaching From Dysfunctional Family Members | Happily Imperfect

How to Break the Cycle of Codependency | Happily Imperfect

https://blogs.psychcentral.com/imper...dium=popular17

https://blogs.psychcentral.com/imper...ty-and-stress/

https://blogs.psychcentral.com/imper...ant-to-change/

My best wishes to you & your daughter...