Thankyou both, I will have a read through the links Skeezyks i appreciate that.

Yes, I agree about the U.K.. I've been very lucky to have some of the best available in London on the NHS. But on the whole; the picture is a bit (terrible) currently.
We're very behind on mental health it seems over here.
I really wish they'd hurry up and start integrating Schema therapy into the mainstream personality disorder treatments.. I feel that's really what i need.. but it just isn't even available without going privately and the money is
I'm currently waiting for, probably psychodynamic... but the waiting list is about 12-14 months ........ which is way too long..

Thanks for the heads-up. I'm sadly very aware of this having been raised by a father with severe malignant NPD...I keep an eye out. But as a result of my experience - i find it very hard to trust people.. i'm working on getting a more balanced view of things, and keeping boundaries.

Best,
C5