Hey, I just want to say that I totally feel for you! It is so difficult to find a perfect medication or combination of meds. I am a parent, like you, who began looking for help when my son was 14. We didn't even have a diagnosis in the beginning. He became a different person; was depressed and anxious and antidepressants only made him more vocal and agitated to the point of physical violence. Enter Risperdone. Then Abilify. Another year later, Zyprexa. In the past 4 years we've had quite a few prescribers and some were better than others. I am sorry I cannot help. I wish you the best of luck!